Here is what I do know. I know they are from some place near Barcelona. They have waited for three years for a daughter and wanted to name her.....Laura. They were not sure of the name yet. She has a five year old brother whose name is......Anton. Both her parents speak some English and so I tried to explain but I am sure that had many questions. Antoinette for her part did not cry at all. After a while she warmed up to her brother and the two of them played and were chasing one another. Anton was really tender with her and that was very sweet to watch. He held her hand and touched her face a lot.
I could sense they were wanting to leave and so I said goodbye and Antoinette was not too concerned about me leaving. I know she did not know what was happening. I think having Anton will help her so much because she loves being around other kids. From what happened tonight it would seem they have no desire to come back to visit us. It is in accordance with the Chinese government's suggestion that the break be clean even though attachment theory is clear that the best for the child is to have a period of overlap with the previous care takers and the new parents. In Russia they require a two week period of bonding. I honestly wished they would do the same here. It would make me feel better that is for sure.
So for the first time in more than two years and almost six months Antoinette will not be part of my life. It was weird coming home and knowing she was not my responsibility any more. The nannies had already moved her crib into another room and her spot was empty :( We will get the smaller room ready with new cribs and we will paint it soon.
Life moves on and now we wait for one of the next three who are currently matched to be adopted. I wonder who it is going to be? Sarah/Lily, Benjamin/Anthony or Gabriel? I already got a request for taking on two new SB babies. So stay tuned. Life is exciting!
Life, Love and Laughter,
Starfish Foster Home