I recently received some lovely pictures from Laura Joan's family. Laura Joan was one of Amanda's first six babies she had placed in her arms. Laura Joan was also the first Starfish baby to be adopted into her forever family. How beautiful she is!
4:30 pm- 6:30 pm
Time: 7:00 pm
The Church of Jesus
Christ of Latter Day
1988 W. 11400 S.
South Jordan, Utah
Life celebration: 4:30pm -
Memorial Service: 7:00 pm
Light refreshment will be
Please try not to wear black.
Come Celebrate Amanda’s amazing life and legacy!
We will be celebrating Amanda’s life with an
OPEN HOUSE from 4:30pm-6:30pm.
This will include video commemorations of Amanda’s life,
displays, and light refreshment. Amanda’s friends will have
the chance to meet one another and reflect on her amazing
legacy. The memorial service will begin in the chapel at
7:00 p.m. under the direction of Bishop Jeff Beckman. The
service will include music, prayers, remarks about
Amanda’s life and her love of the Savior.
Children are absolutely welcome and encouraged to attend
both of these events held in the LDS Church which is family
friendly and has a mother’s room, changing tables in the
restrooms, etc. If you can join us, please respond by EVITE
or email Stephanie Barbee or Ali Johnson.
firstname.lastname@example.org or email@example.com
Travel Information for Salt Lake City, Utah
If flying, the Salt Lake City International airport code is
“SLC” with airline carriers Jet Blue, Delta Airlines,
South West, American Airlines, United, US Airways,
and Frontier Airlines. There is plenty of ground
transportation available right at the airport: cabs,
rental cars, and Trax rail system.
South Jordan is roughly 25 minutes from the airport
and is easily accessible from I-15 going south.
Here are a couple of HOTELS we can suggest which are
close to the chapel.
Holiday Inn Express:
10680 South Automall Drive
Sandy, Ut 804070
Hotel Front Desk 1-801-495-1317
Sandy-Salt Lake City
10701 S. Holiday Park Dr.
Sandy, Utah 84070 USA
Phone: 1-801-571-3600 Toll-free: 1-801-571-3600
Hilton Garden Inn Salt Lake
City/Sandy 277 West Sego Lily Drive, Sandy, Utah,
SUPER 8 S JORDAN/SANDY/SLC AREA
10722 S 300 W, Interstate 15 Exit 293 or
292, South Jordan, UT 84095-4077 US
In Lieu of Flowers/Memorial Contributions
In Lieu of Flowers:
It was Amanda’s hope that instead of flowers,
those who wish to remember her would make
a contribution in her memory to Starfish
Children’s Services. You may do this either
going to the website
Clicking on the orange “Donate Now” box at
the top to make a donation online. You will be
able to indicate that your donation is “in
memory of” Amanda. Or, you may send a
check to Starfish Children’s Services, attn:
Patrick McLaughlin, Board Chair, 6 West
122nd street, New York, NY 10027. Make
checks payable to the “Starfish Children’s
Services” and indicate “ in memory of
As Amanda would sign
“Live, Laugh, Love”
Come and celebrate Amanda De Lange's amazing life and legacy!
This Memorial Service will begin in the Chapel at 7:00 p.m. under the direction of Bishop Jeff Beckman. The service will include music, prayers, remarks about Amanda’s life and her love of her Savior. Then, we’ll reconvene in the Multipurpose Room at 8:15 p.m. for a continued Celebration of Life, as Amanda requested. This will include music and video commemorations of Amanda’s life, additional remarks, and displays. Light refreshment will be provided. Children are absolutely welcome and encouraged to attend both of these events – the LDS Church is family friendly and has a mother’s room, changing tables in the restrooms, etc. If you can join us, please respond by email at firstname.lastname@example.org If you don’t know your plans yet, no problem – please just come!
It’s been one
week since Amanda de Lange returned home to her Heavenly Father. I know those
of us in Nashville have been reflecting on Amanda, with love and gratitude for
her life and her work. And from the hundreds of messages posted on her Facebook
and sent to StoriesofStarfish@gmail.com, so many of you around the world are
doing the same. Please continue sending your stories and memories!
with further details about several things related to Amanda, and to answer some
questions that have been asked in emails so all can benefit from the
Memorial Service and Celebration of
Amanda’s Life – Saturday, August 4, 2012
Time: 4 p.m.
Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, 4300 Hillsboro Road, Nashville,
Tennessee, 37215, USA
What to expect:
The Memorial Service will begin in the Chapel at 4:00 p.m. under the direction of Bishop Jeff Webber and Relief Society President Sherri Farr and will include
music, prayers, remarks about Amanda’s life and her love of her Savior, Jesus
Christ, as Amanda requested. Then, we’ll reconvene in the Multipurpose Room at
5:15 p.m. for a continued Celebration of Life, also as Amanda requested. This
will include music and video commemorations of Amanda’s life, additional
remarks, displays and places to write notes of thanks to the medical teams that
provided wonderful care – dinner also will be provided. Guests are welcome to
stay and visit with one another. Children are absolutely welcome and encouraged
to attend both of these events – the LDS Church is family friendly and has a
mother’s room, changing tables in the restrooms, etc. Parking will be available
at the Church, and in the lot directly across the street from the Church. If
you know for certain that you’re planning to attend the events on August. 4th,
please email me at email@example.com as we’re planning food. If you don’t
know your plans yet, no problem – please just come! There will be plenty for
Travel Information for Nashville,
the Nashville International Airport is airport code “BNA” and serves a full
menu of airlines. There is plenty of ground transportation available
right at the airport as well: cabs, rental cars, etc.
Nashville is easily accessible from I-65, going north and south.
Here are three hotels
we can suggest – the first two are in the Maryland Farms area of Brentwood,
and convenient to restaurants and the Interstate; the last one is in the Green
Hills area of Nashville and close to the LDS Church, also convenient to
restaurants and the Interstate:
Baymont Inn & Suites
111 Penn Warren Drive
Courtyard by Marriott
103 East Park Drive
Hampton Inn & Suites
2324 Crestmoor Road
Remembrances of Amanda
Memorial Contributions / In Lieu of Flowers: It was
Amanda’s hope that instead of flowers, those who wish to remember her would
make a contribution in her memory to Starfish Children’s Services. You may do
this by either going to the website www.thestarfishfosterhome.org/index.apsx and clicking on the orange “Donate Now” box at the top to make a
donation online. You will be able to indicate that your donation is “in memory
of” Amanda. Or, you may send a check to Starfish Children’s Service, attn:
Patrick McLaughlin, Board Chair, 6 West 122nd Street, New York,
NY 10027. Make checks payable to
“Starfish Children’s Services” and indicate “in memory of Amanda.”
Cards: If you’d like to mail cards or letters of
condolence, or other remembrances of Amanda, please mail to attn: Eve Boger,
9481 Foothills Drive, Brentwood, TN 37027
Post-Memorial Celebration – date TBA,
either September 13 or 14, 2012
Place: Salt Lake
will be forthcoming on this celebration. If you have any questions specifically
related to this, please email Sherri Farr at firstname.lastname@example.org and she will get you in touch with the
organizers in Utah.
As you know, it
was Amanda’s final wish that a book be written about her life and Starfish
babies. Thank you for sending your stories and memories to the email address: StoriesofStarfish@gmail.com and please continue to do so. You may
also submit photos and videos here as well. While Amanda was here in Nashville,
we met with several writers about her book. We have someone directing the
project that Amanda chose, according to her wishes, and her intellectual
property will be protected and shared in the way she has directed. We have an
intellectual property attorney working on the project as well. We will share
more on this at a later date – for now, we want to answer the many questions that
have come in about Amanda’s book by assuring you that things are in good hands.
We appreciate all of the queries and suggestions of potential contributors and
writers. If you have additional information or thoughts to share about Amanda’s
book, please email me at email@example.com and I’ll be glad to share with the
Amanda de Lange – Obituary
Amanda de Lange,
51, left this Earthly life on Saturday, July 14, 2012 at 10:48 a.m. CST
surrounding by loving friends in Nashville, Tennessee, USA. She waged a
courageous battle against uterine cancer, under the devoted and capable care of
medical teams at Centennial Hospital, the Sarah Cannon Cancer Institute, and
Tennessee Oncology Associates in Nashville.
As the Founder
and Executive Director of Starfish Children’s Service, operating the Starfish
Foster Home in Xi’an, China, Amanda took in medically fragile children from
state orphanages in China, nurtured them back to health, provided their
necessary surgeries, and prepared them to be adopted into forever families. Amanda
and the incredible Starfish team and volunteers accomplished an incredible,
loving feat in just seven short years, taking in 168 babies, arranging and
funding nearly 250 surgeries, and facilitating 81 adoptions thus far.
Amanda was born
March 12, 1961 in Johannesburg, South Africa to Adriaan Erasmus de Lange and
Cornelia Etrecia Laing. Her father preceded her in death, and her mother,
Etrecia Jacquet, survives her. Also survived by her sister Karen Beeton;
brother Chris de Lange (Retha Lubbe); and nieces and nephews Simon Beeton,
Lutzio Beeton Parks (Michael), Michael Beeton; and Mekyla Lubbe and Nanushka
to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, which she joined at age 19
in Zimbabwe. She served a voluntary 18-month mission for the Church in South
Africa. She was educated at Brigham Young University, in Provo, Utah, graduating
with her bachelor’s degree in 1996. She subsequently taught English first in Taiwan
and then in Mainland China -- which is where she began volunteering with
Chinese orphanages and where the Chinese government granted her a license to
open a foster home. Amanda was honored with the “Service to Family” Distinguished
Service Award from Brigham Young University in 2009.
When asked what
her obituary should include, Amanda said this: "We’ve taken care of 168
babies, we’ve had almost 250 surgeries and 81 adoptions and that, my friend,
pretty much sums up my life. Because other than that, what is really important?
You boil it down and that’s the triumph of my life.”
We hope to see
you in Nashville August 4, or in Salt Lake City September 13 or 14 to celebrate
the triumph of Amanda and her life. In the meantime, please contact Sherri Farr
at firstname.lastname@example.org with any questions.
Amanda de Lange,
51, born March 12, 1961 in South Africa, returned to her Heavenly Father at 10:48
a.m. CST, Saturday, July 14, 2012 in Nashville, Tennessee, USA. Amanda left
this Earthly life with her favorite songs and hymns filling the air, and more
than a dozen friends at her side – some who have known her from the beginning
of Starfish in 2005; close friends in Nashville and loving parents of adopted
Chinese children; and dear friends from her church family who have helped care
for her the last few months in the United States. It was a beautiful, serene
setting in which to bid our Amanda farewell. She was never alone; words of love
and appreciation were showered upon her; messages from friends were shared with
her; she was able to say farewell to her family by phone; friends prayed with
and for her; gentle fingers caressed her head; and cool cloths, foot and hand
rubs were plentiful – her signature, beautiful nails a soft pink.
Amanda was enveloped
in love as she left, and we have no doubt, wrapped in the arms of Heavenly
Father with an even greater love as she arrived. So fitting for a woman who
selflessly shared her passion and energy nurturing vulnerable orphans,
restoring them to health, and preparing them for the loving arms of their new
parents and forever families.
As the Founder
and Executive Director of Starfish Children’s Service, operating the Starfish
Foster Home in Xi’an, China, Amanda accomplished an incredible, loving feat in just
seven short years. While she was in the hospital last week, Amanda reflected:
“168 babies, nearly 250 surgeries, and 81 adoptions – that pretty much sums up
my life!” There is so much humility in that one phrase – and even more impact.
Eighty-one Starfishes with their forever families, and so many more ready for
their turn, thanks to Amanda and the incredible Starfish team and volunteers.
reflected, “I was blessed beyond measure to be given the opportunity to found
and direct Starfish. I love that I took the opportunity when it was presented.
God was good to me. My work has been a testimony of God’s love for the kids.”
Amanda also shared
one of her favorite scriptures, Romans 8:28 from the New Testament: “And we
know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who
are called according to his purpose.” Amanda certainly loved God and showed it
through her actions, and she felt called to serve China’s special needs
orphans. She embodied this verse in her work.
We will update
the blog as the plans are finalized for the memorial service and celebration of
her life so that all who desire will be able to travel to Nashville, Tennessee
and share in the joy of remembering Amanda. The date for this is August 4,
2012. (One hint I can give you: per Amanda, no one is to wear black, and
there will be chocolate!)
There are also
plans being made for a post-memorial celebration in Salt Lake City, Utah. The
tentative dates being set aside for this are Sept. 13 or 14, 2012.
In the meantime,
please contact Sherri Farr at 615-260-8640 or email at email@example.com with any
to send your stories and photos to StoriesofStarfish@gmail.com
and if you’re her friend on Facebook, please continue to post messages there.
Thank you, dear
friends, for your love and care for Amanda. While gone from our sight, her
legacy and spirit will be with us forever.
I’m writing to
share an update about our dear, beloved Amanda. Thank you for your many
messages and photos you have shared since her last post on July 8th. As you
know, she has been in hospice care with loving friends from near and far,
church members, and nurses around her – a beautiful circle of care for her as
she is going through this part of her life’s journey.
As the cancer is
progressing, Amanda is having increased pain and discomfort, and therefore
increased medication. Her moments of clarity are becoming fewer – the nurses
believe the cancer is quickly advancing.
We ask you to now contact Sherri Farr at 615-260-8640 or email at firstname.lastname@example.org to check
if visits are advised.
We are able to
tell Amanda of your phone calls and concern when she is lucid and that always
brings a smile to her face!
to send your stories and photos to StoriesofStarfish@gmail.com and if you’re her friend on Facebook,
please continue to post messages to her there. We will update the blog as there
is news to share.
Please also know that one of Amanda's request is to have a memorial celebration of her life once the time is appropriate. This will be an open service that all are welcome to attend. Information about the timing of the memorial will be released once it is determined.
appreciates your prayers and concern – and she feels them daily. On her behalf,
As Amanda would
say: life, love and laughter -- always,